Decide To Allow

You might be familiar with the work that Elizabeth Kubler Ross did surrounding the five stages of grief: Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally, acceptance. When we finally decide to allow, we can settle into the final stage of acceptance.

I believe that we experience grief anytime there is a major change in our lives. In relationships, when someone leaves, or the dynamics change (such as in a long-term health challenge). Sometimes we carry grief with us as the result of a relationship not being as we would have preferred, like one with parents or other family members. We might carry that grief with us for years or even decades, until we allow ourselves to feel what we feel, and then ultimately, accept the new truth.

Why is this important? Because we won’t be available for the joy and passion that Life has for us, or for the intuitive ideas that Spirit gives us, if we are the walking wounded.

It is not necessarily fun stuff to look at and heal what needs to be healed. But the mystic poet Rumi reminds us: “don’t turn away. Keep your gaze on the bandaged place. That’s where the light enters you.”